How To Become More Resilient and Not Give Up On Yourself Easily!

 Have you ever tried to learn a foreign language or some new skill and after few weeks of trying you gave up because you got busy or lost your motivation or simply got frustrated because it did not seem that you were making any progress?  Imagine instead of quitting you had made a commitment to yourself to practice that skill or studied that language for just 5 minutes, 5 days per week no matter how little progress you were making!  You would simply practice or studied for at least 5 minutes 5 days per week without judgment.  If you started doing that one year ago, do you think you would have mastered whatever skill you were trying to master or learn whatever language you were trying to learn by now?   Most likely yes and if you had not completely mastered it, you would have been well on your way.  Don't you wish you had made that commitment now?  Here is a quote I read once that made a huge difference in my life:  “Don't underestimate the potential of a small amount of time put to good use on a regular basis”  I live by this rule.

You need to apply the same type of thinking to your weight loss efforts.  Let me explain.  As you already know by now, the only way to achieve sustainable weight loss is to change the habitual behaviors that got you overweight and the only way to change habitual behaviors is to focus on changing one behavior at a time.  So far so Good?

As you are working on developing a new habitual behavior make a commitment to yourself that every day you would do something towards the development of that behavior, no matter how small the action is.  So for example, let say you were trying to develop the habit of doing more aerobics.  Make a commitment to yourself that you would walk on the treadmill or outside for at least 1 minute 5 days per week.  Don't judge yourself if you are getting any benefit from it or not, just do it judgment free.  Before you know it, the 1 minute becomes 2 minutes and then 5 minutes and so on.  Before you know it you will be doing 20 and 30 minutes habitually.

As you are working towards the development of this behavior you will have negative thoughts that would try to convince you to stop because you are not getting any results from just doing 1 or 2 minutes of aerobics.  Remind yourself that if you quit your efforts to develop this behavior and the rest of them, a year from now you would be looking back at this moment thinking, “If I only stuck with the program and did not quit, by now I would have developed all the healthy behaviors that I needed to lose weight and improve my health and now I would be enjoying a lean and healthy body, instead of suffering the consequences of being overweight and out of shape” You would be wishing you had a time machine that could take you back to this moment to convince yourself not to quit.    So do yourself a favor and don’t quit.

So, every time you think of quitting your efforts to develop a healthy behavior or eliminate an unhealthy one, think of how you would feel a year from now, about your decision to quit today?  Remember, there will be days you will not feel motivated to workout or to eat right, on those days just do enough to keep the momentum going.

The focus should always be to do at least something toward the development of the behavior you are working on, it does not have to be big.  Nobody has the perfect schedule when you have more time or you are more motivated do more, but when you don't have that much time or lack motivation do less, but always do something.  By doing something every day, that trains your subconscious mind to take over the behavior and make it habitual.

Do you remember how you learned to ride a bike?  I am sure you fell down few times, but you did not quit, why?  Because you knew it was only a matter of practice before you mastered the skill of riding the bike.  The thought that you might not be able to learn to ride a bike did not cross your mind or if it did you parents or whoever taught you to ride, dismissed the idea right of way and reinforced the idea that you could. Well, developing and making habitual any other behavior is no different.  Just keep practicing the behavior you want to make habitual the best you can, yo

u will mess up from time to time, but sooner or later you will master it just like you have mastered many other skills that you have today.  We all need a little encouragement from time to time, and that is the purpose of this report on the Right Mindset, to remind you that yes you can develop or eliminate any behavior you chose to, all you have to do is keep practicing.


Stavros Mastrogiannis is a sustainable weight loss coach and has been working in the weight loss field for over 25 years.  He is the creator of a revolutionary weight loss system which he teaches at his facility  Live Your Way Thin LLC, which is located in Danbury CT and also through his online coaching program.